Nightmares...

A lot of bad things happen to a lot of people. Although the reaction to such fiascos vary from person to person, the way the world responds can be divided into a few fixed types.

Some sympathize with you, but no one realizes that you may not want sympathy as it may weaken you even more.

People give you false hope thinking it might make you feel better.. and it might if you dont see through them. But that didnt work for me. Rather it made me furious thinking they might consider me stupid if they want me to believe the crap they are saying..

Another famous technique is to quote examples of people who've had similar problems. The ones that get through the hurdles are forced as examples to others.. but no one really knows the complete picture there. If something worked for someone, its not necessary that it'll work for you. It may sound a bit pessimistic but I really feel that once you start looking how others managed things, you are not able to analyse 'your' the problem objectively. Problems might be the same, but situations are generally unique.

A not-so-close-person might be able to help more than someone who is close to you. Coz he doesnt have to take care of your feelings..

For me, the best were people who help me find real alternatives to the problem and help me digest the failure.

This is the reason that I am awkward in such situations. Most people (at least among those around me) were comforted by the compromising ideas. But I am a bit more direct.. correspondingly I am labelled 'without feeling' or 'hard'.